Triangles | A private reflection

The red triangle

Notice

RescuerI must fix it VictimI have no power PerpetratorSomeone is to blame

Victim feels powerless and waits for someone or something else to change.

Rescuer takes responsibility for another person's feelings, choices, or outcome.

Perpetrator uses blame, pressure, judgment, or control to force movement.

The green triangle

Choose

OwnershipName what is mine NegotiationAsk and listen BoundariesChoose my limits

Ownership names your part, your choices, and what is yours to repair.

Negotiation says what you need, hears the other person, and creates clear agreements.

Boundaries define what you will participate in and what you will step away from.

Tell me what
feels stuck.